“When you get what you want in your struggle for self,
And the world makes you king for a day,
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that man has to say.
For it isn’t a man’s father, mother or wife,
Whose judgement upon him must pass,
The fellow whose verdict counts most in life,
Is the man staring back from the glass.
He’s the fellow to please, never mind all the rest,
For he’s with you clear to the end,
And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test,
If the man in the glass is your friend.
You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But the final reward will be heartache and tears,
If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.”
I will read Kurt’s story three times.
First Reading: In my kitchen in the morning. Pre-coffee.
Second Reading: In the Library in the morning. Post-coffee.
Third Reading: Durango Joe’s in the afternoon. Mid- coffee.
I usually find time to sit down and read at the end of the day when everything has settled down. But the problem with this is that I bring all of my emotions from the day into what I am reading. This makes it difficult to empathize with the characters as they talk about the difficulties of their lives. To not have any personal bias, I need to let go of my mood from the day, and read the stories.
Exercise, diet, nature, service, relationships, stress management, and spiritual and religious involvement are all aspects that Logan LaPlante believes will lead to a happier life.
“The power of choice is mine; I have a choice of how I want to perceive each and every situation in my life. . . . Obviously I’m not to that point yet because I choose to make myself happy and make myself sad on what other people are thinking. But I think I’d like to someday get to a point where I can say, ‘Okay, that’s your perception. I am not dependent on you for my happiness or my sadness.’ And I think that would be a very strong, very spiritual place to be.” (p. 105)
In Authoring Your Life, the most of the interviewees try to please the people around them in order to make themselves happy. My research would focus on this aspect and look at how pleasing others first affects our well being rather than pleasing yourself first.
Most of the struggles for the interviewees in Authoring Your Life are internal. They struggle with proving themselves or finding inner peace and happiness, but Lydia struggles with the chaos around her. Internally, Lydia is stable, but she struggles with the obstacles around her. For my research topic, I would look into the effects that external chaos has on inner stability and how inner chaos effects your life and the world around you.