Here is not the latest but a good chunk of my most recent work.
A person or character is better understood after a, at minimum, brief review of significant events and facts that are made apparent to us by interaction or a text. We are first introduced to Lydia in college, where she describes part of her goals as “trying to prove herself” and prove herself she did by graduating with two teaching certificates, being a member of a sorority and participating in a multitude of extra-curricular activities. She didn’t have much time after finishing college to get her life going it seems before she met and married her fiancé, David, who was in the US Navy, less than a year after graduation. Lydia and David moved to a completely new state, forcing Lydia into a whole new life of change. Her husband went back to sea and Lydia kept busy by teaching at community college and interacting with other Navy wives. For their next move, the duo had a choice of and received the overseas tour they wanted, it lasted a little over two years and was an experience that showed Lydia, “Life is too short to be bothered by little things like moving and being uprooted from jobs and friends” (Magolda 165). This quotation is an excellent perspective for someone about to embark on a life similar to Lydia, she was expecting the changes and already prepared to not let them get to her. After the over-seas tour experience, Baxter B. Magolda includes some commentary and quotations discussing Lydia’s self-identity at this time, and how her independence is enduring a great period of change, “It will be a different focus on who I am and what my purpose is. Lydia the wife, with a son, but my independence will still be there.” (Magolda 168). For life events such as having a child, quitting your job to become a stay-at-home mom, having your Navy husband back home after months of his absence, and moving across the country; simultaneously, Lydia seems to keep a even temperament and level head through this period of adjustment. Naturally, she felt some apprehension in the midst of all these new and exciting adjustments, she again takes part in a group specifically for stay-at-home moms and tells of how they kept her grounded. This time was not only a period of change for Lydia, but for David as well. He returned home form the Navy shortly before the birth of his son, Luke, also, in their new assignment, David was taking classes regularly to get his master’s degree.
Lydia happily surrenders to motherhood in time for her and David to make the very big decision of how long he will stay in the Navy, Lydia reluctantly relates the decision to if David will, “sacrifice the career for the family” (Magolda 171). This propels to a discussion between Magolda and Lydia about the effects of the Navy on raising a family and how a positive attitude makes its possible for t to work. For the following few years, David had shore duty. “Shore Duty” is what follows an assignment of “Sea Duty”, usually switching at an average of every 36 months. Some assignments are longer and some shorter, also, during “Sea Duty” a soldier is not necessarily at sea for the full three years, they are often in home ports, yet these assignments typically demand more work and time form a soldier (Powers). Lydia describes loving having David home during that time but also “waiting for the bubble to burst” (Magolda 175). After four years, David was redeployed to sea four months after the birth of their second son, Alex.
Following this is more description and reflection to her children’s happiness and environment with their father in the Navy. Despite being accustomed to this way of life, Lydia’s strength was questioned when her second child developed mysterious health problems while David was gone at sea. Doctors had a hard time diagnosing Alex’s problem and dealing with this frightening situation on her own made Lydia realize that she needs to depend on herself more and more. She handled and managed each incident individually, learning new things about her son and his illness constantly and trusting both her kids, and other support networks to get through each day.
David returned home from his two year sea assignment and receive a new, pentagon assignment, making it possible for them all to live in the same house again. Lydia couldn’t deny her relief but change was yet again on the horizon. She discusses how she is okay with the uncertainty of when David would receive another assignment and of how long he planned to stay in the Navy because through all her tribulations, she has learned to trust herself.